Let’s Redefine What it Means to Love

Sometimes the word is thrown out carelessly, while others only use it for significant moments in their lives. Others believe their God is the symbol of love -which I will get to in a second. But before I define what love is first we have to know who we are.

And we are lairs.

If you’ve watched the documentary called (Dis)Honesty on Netflix then you know what I’m talking about. Without it we wouldn’t be the people that we are today. Lying develops at an early age -but we have to have it to learn.

With that being said, lying is a gift to us, but also a curse. It’s why we’re constantly redefining things. Which I will get to in more detail on another post.

There is something else that we do, that prevents us from loving each other, which is a new term I’d like to call separationism. On earth, our viewpoints are constricted, we can only see from our point of view. We will never live this life feeling someone’s else pain. Its because of this that we need to become more aware of how we’re separating ourselves from each other. 

Relgion is something that used to separate me from my friends. Only later did I begin to think: isn’t it kind of funny that everyone thinks the religion they were born into has the right God? Why does my mom get to go to heaven and my dad doesn’t? Even though he’s done pretty much everything for my family. I soon began to see many flaws in christaintiy and I decided I no longer wanted to be part of it. Now, I’m not here to say that people can’t believe in a loving God -just don’t force one on kids.

As people, we have no idea what other people go through on a daily basis. If someone goes around telling children if they don’t follow God -their God- they will go to hell. Won’t teaching them to hate just encourage them to harm either themselves or someone else? 

I believe in following a path that will bring us closer together as a society. Not pull us apart by our mistakes or “thought crimes.” We can’t more forward as a society if all we can ever think about is just how different a person is from us. I think everybody has a a sense of love and a sense of hate, but these senses are not bias. Both will come from every religion, spirituality, agnostic and atheist alike.

The love that we can find within ourselves is the only one that we know exists. Sometimes this sense can be suppressed by hateful people that have come across our lives, sometimes it can be elevated when we see someone who motivates people to take better care of themselves.

Even in jails, the best way to get people to do better is to try and rehabilitate them. Some prisoners that have been put in solitary confinement can now no longer leave their cells a normal person because the isolation has pushed them to the brink of insanity. I think more often then not, harsh punishments only give people more of reason to be hateful. Now, I’m not saying that no one should be put in jail, people that can’t prove themselves trustworthy should not be able to run around society. However, if they want that freedom back, they’re going to have to prove to people that they won’t harm other people again.

I know most people might see prisoners as terrible people that deserve to go hell, but I’d have to disagree. I think some of the people that are in prison have pretty much already seen hell. I’m not going to justify there actions, but sometimes there is a lot that goes on between closed doors that we don’t know about.

And I know sometimes it is so hard not to be angry. I’ve been there before, but its best to take a breathe and ask why? By asking why we might be able to find some part of their psychology to look out for or find something that happened in to them and try to prevent it from happening to other people. Sometimes people will try to justify their actions using past events that have happened to them. Other people will try and use to make there lives better, but not everyone. We need to remind them it still wasn’t fair what they went through, but that doesn’t give someone the right to hurt other people. 

With that being said, my body still starts to shake when christians(or really any other religious person) that have probably never lived in a bad neighbor in their entire lives tries to tell other people they’re glad that person is going to hell. Please keep in mind that some of these criminal’s father quite literally threw them into a washing machine and turned it on. Again, I’m not trying to justify their actions, some people do come from good places and do end up doing terrible things despite this and we may never know the reason why. However, sometimes its hard to create love in a place filled with hate. 

Some of you might have already seen this coming, but I think at this point in time we should look at animals rights too. Now, I’m not going to try to push this too much because apparently some people already consider this too extreme. However, I think it safe to say that animals, the environment and humans can all benefit from a vegan lifestyle.

We’ve all heard the horror story of psycho paths that grow up experimenting on animals and later becoming serial killers. From that it could be safe to infer that people who have to kill animals for their jobs might be slightly more likely to go past that. Now, I’m not saying that everyone that kills animals will go onto kill people, some people still genuinely believe that we need meat to live. I know this might be hard to hear, but I’ve been vegan for almost two years now and many other people have been vegan for much longer. Dairy and eggs aren’t good for us either, all of which are topics I will discuss in more detail later on.

There may be some people reading this, that know its wrong, but still continue to do it. Please stop harming yourself as well as animals, I know it might be hard in a culture filled with people who what to continue doing whatever they want without looking at studies. And for those of you who can’t get a job, and have parents that wouldn’t help you move forward with your life, I am hurting for you. I know what its like to live in a home where my parents -and school- pretty much just fed me junk food all the time and didn’t help me to create better habits. Please remember that some day you will be free to make your own decisions. 

Before I finish, I want to discuss the topic of self harm. Self harm is not only found in suicidal thoughts or cutting. Self harm can be found in pretty much any way we don’t take care of ourselves. I think depression and suicidal thoughts are more of a product of these actions -but not always. I know this might be hard to hear, but please try to find validation in yourself. I used to look for validation in other people when I was young and my depression was the worst, but I soon learned that as long as I cared about myself nothing else mattered. I know now with social media it’s easy to want to try and do things that people might like, instead of doing something that you like. If people try to tell you what to do with your life then remind then that this should be your choice to make and not theirs. 

Speaking of not being able to make our own choices lets talk about religion. Now again, I am not condoning anyone that believes in a loving God. But teaching people all the hateful things that God did in the bible, simply just isn’t right. When I went to church, there were times were I literally hated myself. I felt like I would never be good enough for God so I just kept doing good deeds until I eventually just stopped taking care of myself. To me, a loving God doesn’t make people go to hell. Now, I’m still not saying that people should indoctrinate this into their kids -even if the God is loving. It’s still only just a belief and so far we haven’t be able to prove otherwise.

As we walk around this world, the only people we know we have is each other and because of that, we shouldn’t keep trying to break ourselves apart.  







Published by Athena Bocock

I am vegan and I like books and writing stories. Recently I've been enjoying romance and animal stories the most.

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